Your Lifeline is Your Connection

For the next month, I will explore and talk about connection and community. It’s one of the things that women like us miss most once we transition out of the 9 to 5 lifestyle and into our encore. It’s also one thing that makes the difference between living a life of joy and fulfillment and one of boredom and feeling alone.

You have a community and social connection when you go to an office or workplace every day. Take work out of the mix. What are you left with? If you’re one of the lucky ones, you’ve created a community around you that isn’t dependent on work. You have family and friends with whom you socialize. What if you’re not one of the lucky ones? How do you fill your social calendar? Who do you reach out to when you want and need to talk? How do you stave off loneliness and feelings of isolation?

These are not easy questions, but you need to answer them. So let’s start by looking at some options for expanding and nurturing your social circle.

1. Reconnect with Old Friends
   Not having the commitments of a 9-to-5 job (or business) is a perfect opportunity to reconnect with friends you’ve lost touch with over the years. Reach out to former colleagues, school friends, or neighbors. Social media platforms like Facebook and LinkedIn can be valuable tools for rekindling old friendships. Send a message or call to catch up and perhaps plan a coffee date or lunch. You might be surprised how many people are eager to reconnect and share their experiences.

2. Join Clubs and Groups
   One of the best ways to meet new people is by joining clubs or groups that align with your interests. Whether it’s a book club, gardening group, or a local walking club, shared interests give you a foundation for building new relationships. Many communities offer a variety of clubs and groups specifically for 59+ people, providing a supportive environment to meet like-minded women.

3. Volunteer Your Time
   Volunteering is a beautiful way to give back to your community and meet new people. You have causes you’re passionate about — helping at a local animal shelter, working with children, or supporting a food bank. Volunteering fills your time with meaningful activities and connects you with others who share your dedication to making a difference.

4. Take Up a New Hobby
   Now is the perfect time to try something new. A new hobby (or an old one you haven’t given time to for a while) can introduce you to new people and open doors to new social circles. Consider activities like painting, dancing, or learning a musical instrument. Many community centers offer classes and workshops where you can meet others exploring new interests.

5. Attend Community Events
   Watch for local events such as fairs, markets, or festivals. These gatherings are fantastic opportunities to meet new people and engage with your community. Attend local lectures, concerts, or sports events. Participating in these activities keeps you active and provides natural settings for making connections.

6. Leverage Technology
   You live in a digital world, and technology can be a great ally in forming new connections. Join online forums or social media groups that focus on your interests. There are numerous online communities for retirees where you can share experiences, ask for advice, and make new friends. Video calls and virtual meetups have become increasingly popular and can be a great way to stay connected, especially if you can’t meet in person.

Once you’ve started to make new connections, nurture them. Be proactive in arranging meetups, whether for a coffee, a walk, or an event together. People are well-intentioned, but life has a way of inserting itself into daily living. Don’t count on the other women to pick up the phone first. Keep in touch regularly through calls or messages. Building strong, lasting relationships takes effort and time, but the rewards are worth it.

Remember to take care of yourself. Engage in activities that make you happy and keep you physically and mentally healthy. A positive mindset and good self-care practices will naturally attract others to you. Your well-being is the foundation for building strong connections with others.