45 Life Lessons

This post is a little detour from my usual, but it’s fun and thought provoking, so I wanted to share …

As women in our encore years, we’ve done a lot and seen a lot. Along the way, we’ve learned a lot.

The following list, written by Regina Brett, a 67-year-old bestselling author and newspaper columnist, is insightful and full of good advice. She wrote this list when she was 45. It has circulated the internet countless times, often attributed to her as a 90-year-old woman.

There are 45 lessons on this list, and so many more could be added if we each had a voice in creating it. Do any of them resonate with you?

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
   
   
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
   
   
3. Life is too short – enjoy it.
   
   
4. Your job won’t care for you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
   
   
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
   
   
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
   
   
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
   
   
8. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
   
   
9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
   
   
10. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
    
    
11. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
    
    
12. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
    
    
13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
    
    
14. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
    
    
15. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
    
    
16. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
    
    
17. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.
    
    
18. Don’t take no for an answer when going after what you love in life.
    
    
19. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, and wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
    
    
20. Over-prepare, then go with the flow.
    
    
21. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
    
    
22. The most important sex organ is the brain.
    
    
23. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
    
    
24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?’
    
    
25. Always choose life.
    
    
26. Forgive, but don’t forget.
    
    
27. What other people think of you is none of your business.
    
    
28. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
    
    
29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
    
    
30. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
    
    
31. Believe in miracles.
    
    
32. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
    
    
33. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
    
    
34. Your children get only one childhood.
    
    
35. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
    
    
36. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
    
    
37. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
    
    
38. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need.
    
    
39. The best is yet to come.
    
    
40. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
    
    
41. Yield.
    
    
42. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.
    
    
43. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
    
    
44. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
    
    
45. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful, or joyful.

So, what lessons have you learned in your 59+ years of life?

What would you add to this list?

It’s never too late to Make sure your life is full of joy and happiness.

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